Saturday, April 2, 2011

We Are A Part Of Everyone We Meet


My dad died a year ago this weekend. 

In thinking about my dad, I thought I'd share the post I wrote (now with a few edits) about him shortly after his passing.

Four years ago, late one December afternoon, my dad and I were sitting in his study. We were having a nice talk – and a nice time. I looked at him and thought: He looks so happy. The light is just right. I should take a picture - because it might be the last good picture I ever take of him. He was fading.

I thought about taking the picture for about 10 minutes, holding back some tears – thinking about what it would be like not to have him around, after having him around for 88 years - as my dad, and later on in life as the first-pass editor for most of my books. (He was a great editor.)

I finally asked him if I could take a shot. He said sure, with a smile and nod. He knew what I was thinking. I asked him to look out the window, and I took a single shot.

My dad, 91, died suddenly and peacefully and quickly on April 3, 2010. A few hours before, on the other side of the country, I had a dream about him: He had pushed his walker aside and was standing up straight. I had not dreamed about him for at least 20 years. Hummm....

Sure, I am very sad. I get waves of tears. I miss him more than he probably ever realized. He was my dad, a very big part of my life – in fact, half the reason for my life. :-)

Those of you who know me know I enjoy quotes. Here is my favorite: "We are a part of everyone we meet." Want proof? My dad, Robert M. Sammon, Sr., was a photographer, getting me started, along with my mother, in photography with his cameras and basement darkroom. But more important, he was a good dad - which I try to be. Everyday. I am very glad we met.

You might want to keep that quote in mind when you meet people. I sure do. You may have more of an impact on someone than you realize.

Rick
Proud son of Robert M. Sammon, Sr.

14 comments:

ShebaJo said...

Beautiful post, beautiful photos of your dad. I know it means more to you, but it means so much to all of us that have lost our dads also. I have tears in my eyes too.

Tanya De Leeuw said...

Thank you for sharing your wonderful tribute to your father, Rick.

You dad will always be with you.

Mara said...

I miss my dad to.... and all his fiddling with camerast. I know he's still with me though, every time I take a shot.

Ian Loomes said...

Thanks for sharing the tribute Rick. I really enjoyed your "Lighting People Indoors and Outdoors" session yesterday at PSW. Very informative.

Brad said...

Beautiful, Rick. My Significant Other's Mother passed just yesterday. Your quote could not be more timely. Thank you.

Harold R. Stinnette said...

Rick,

Thanks for sharing your deep thoughts and deep feelings. I've have long seen you a being a strong, deep creative person and I now get a good feel for the emotions that drive that creativity. That quote is true but also, we can be apart of everyone we connect with thru word and art.
Thanks again,
Harold

GaryG said...

Thank you for the beautiful post. It brought tears to my eyes and my dad died more than two decades ago.

Thomas Kristensen said...

A really good post, your dad was a wise man.

newelly said...

thanks for sharing..great post...makes us all stop and think..

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Rick you are a lucky man to have your father for so long with you, my mother and father are 71 and 72 years old, I am very happy to have them still with me, for all of you who have lost their parents, I beg God for them, thanks Rick for this post that makes me think about what's important in my life, God bless.

Samuel said...

Awesome post Rick. Thank you for sharing. This post puts into words what my heart and mind was trying to say . Thank you so much.

Sharon Thomas said...

Miss my Dad, too. Very big influence. You were lucky to have your Dad around as long as you did. Memories are very sweet. Thank you.

José Antonio González Corredor said...

Hi Rick, you´re a Beautiful Human Be..!! this post, about the signification about your father in your life, confirm it. Wherever he is, must be very proud about the quality of son you were. Un Abrazo.

Stewart baird said...

Thanks for sharing Rick. This is the real stuff, the important moments that are so quickly gone. If is true that; grief is the price we pay for love.